Infidelity is often rooted in one’s selfishness and the other person's neglect. Of course, there are those who are unfaithful despite having an ideal relationship with their spouses. And, although it is more common for males to get involved in extra-marital affairs, there are women who fall into temptation.
This husband's story is about his wife who made the mistake of giving into a one-night stand and consequently getting herself pregnant. This may not have been the most unsurprising consequence of what happened that night, but she certainly did not expect her husband to do what he did.
Here is the story:
Well, less than a month before we got married, we found out she was pregnant. No big deal, it happens. We were using condoms, but whatever, it happens, there could have been a few times where we just did the pullout method instead.
We went ahead with the marriage as planned. I am absolutely certain I am in love with this woman, I thought everything was going great.
Apparently around the time she conceived, she had gone to a party with some of her friends and ended up having drunk sex with some stranger. She didn't even know his name, she could barely remember what he looks like. She said she's regretted it ever since.
She said it was the worst decision of her life and she regretted every day ever since, and she had only trusted me to open up to me because she loved me, and I knew I loved her and would forgive her.
Well, we did the procedure, we had to see a geneticist, explain our reasons. It wasn't cheap, but I had to know. It involved taking a sample from the placenta of the child.
Well it turns out I wasn't the father. I couldn't believe it. My wife, the woman I loved, cheated on me and was pregnant with someone else's child.
I had no idea what would happen to her if I left her. She has no source of income, she has no family here, only a few friends. She has to support herself and a child on her own. I don't think I'd have it in me to keep supporting them.
Part of me strongly wanted a divorce or an annulment. But I wasn't sure if that's the right thing to do, or if I should just stay in this marriage.I know she would suffer incredibly if I left her, personally, emotionally, and financially. But I also know I don't really have an obligation to this child that's not mine, or to her once we divorce.
I was confused and I decided to go to a quiet place. I went to the church, sat there for a long time asking God for help. An old couple noticed me and approached me asking what's wrong? As I started crying I told them everything and explained my dilemma. I don't know what made me tell my personal story, but I did. Then they told me if I truly loved her I'd forgive her and accept the child. If she is sorry, I should give her a chance. They told me to be strong and go be with her as she needed me more than ever, to comfort her.
Love is being with your partner through all ups and downs, they said. They said that they know it would be difficult for me, but they seemed sure the two of us would be a wonderful couple and great parents to the little one. Somewhere in my heart I started to ponder on the advice this beautiful couple gave me and I suddenly felt a sense of inner peace.
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